I’ve been writing for eighteen years now and publishing books for ten. Over the years I have learned so much. Sometimes it can be overwhelming as you’ll begin to feel as if you are always two steps behind. That’s how I’ve felt lately. There’s so much to learn and to understand that I often feel I’ll never know enough. Then I realized that’s the whole point. The person who stops learning is an empty person.
I present to you 15 things I’ve learned so far in my journeys. It was difficult to downsize to a 15-item list but I managed it. The top five things are the last five at the bottom. It will seem that some of these things should be further down the line. That’s because the most important lessons I’ve learned are not about just writing alone but also how I’ve changed or grown as a person. Enjoy.
15. Research and double check facts before you repeat them. Remember that even salt looks like sugar.
14. Be Yourself on Social Media. Everyone else is taken.
13. Don’t let people critique your voice. Understand the difference between feedback that is useful and feedback that robs you.
12. Online is just part of it. There’s a whole world out there. Go out and connect.
11. No one can do it alone. Authors who network and nurture positive connections are the authors who succeed. “A lone-genius can never reach full potential” – Jeff Groins
10. Nurture the process. Launching / releasing a book is a marathon, not a sprint. It’s better to start off slow and consistently gain momentum than to start off fast for a short period of time.
9. Seek the assistance of Beta Readers to help before the big edit. (See #11)
8. Don’t forget the big edit.
7. Don’t take everything so personally. Realize that people can only see things from their level of perception.
6. Celebrate your successes no matter how small or few. Forgive your failures.
5. Be Guided. Calm down. Relax. Don’t make decisions hastily and don’t get flustered when things don’t work out. We learn just as much from our loses as we do our winning. Remember, it’s all part of the plan.
4. Information is different from education. Information informs but education transforms. Information can give you what you need to know but education will show you how to apply what you know to your life.
3. Keep yourself full. You don’t have anything to give that you don’t already own. In other words, service yourself first if you hope to service others. Otherwise, you will get tired and used up and have nothing left for yourself and nothing left to give. Your needs are important and happiness is not something to be achieved; it is something to be experienced. There’s nothing wrong with your cup overflowing because it’s the only way that you can offer yourself fully to others.
2. Don’t be limited. Don’t ever let people put you into a box. If it discourages you from growing then you must leave it behind. The book itself is a platform. Alone it is a book that you sell but it can be so much more. You are not limited to just publishing books alone, but you can also expand the conversation of the book through public speaking, passive income streams, online courses, mentorships and training.
1. Understand what Humility really is. It comes at the risk of humiliation, lack of attention, lowliness, lack of praise and acknowledgement. Do not seek these things. Offer yourself to others freely and expect nothing in return. Do it out of love. Stay humble.