on Jane Friedman site:
When soliciting feedback on their creative work, many writers focus on hiring the best editor or finding a trusted critique partner or group. With just the right feedback, or so you believe, you can progress to a publishable manuscript.
However, years of writing and coaching writers have taught me it’s equally important to be mentally prepared for feedback. And few writers receive counsel on what it means to be ready. Here are three traps I’ve encountered that you may recognize too.