What Is Success? – Guest Post by Tina Frisco…

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While writing the introduction to a fellow author’s book, I realized many of us view success as an end-product. We aspire, we strive and, if fortunate, we manifest. Only then do we feel gratified, overlooking all we accomplished in the process. In short, we fail ourselves.

If we become discouraged when met by an obstacle, we are not seeing that obstacle for what it truly is: a teacher. Obstacles not only teach us what does not work, but also challenge us to reach beyond our perceived limitations. Obstacles are opportunities to practice what we’ve learned, alter our approach, and move forward. This is success.

Being stuck in obsessive thought patterns, limiting beliefs, or anything that stops us short of reaching a goal can lead to wallowing in the past (nostalgia) and yearning for the future (desire). Turning inward and finding the embedded thoughts sabotaging our efforts keeps us in the present and increases our chances of manifesting our dreams. This is success.

When we look within, we succeed in our willingness to explore our dark side and discover who we truly are. Throwing caution to the wind and delving into the depths of our psyches allows negative beliefs to surface and be recognized. We then can alter our approach by trying something new. This is success.

An experiential (versus therapeutic) approach to learning offers the highest chance of success, because learning is achieved through experience. Experience involves braving the unknown. The unknown holds all potential for advancement. If we do not commit to success by staying in the present, we could very well achieve bitterness and defeat.

Acknowledging each effective step we take toward realizing our dream is a marked success. In so doing, we achieve much more than the goal itself; we claim each and every one of our efforts as worthy of recognition.

Life is a process of learning. Potential lies within that process. All we experience teaches us something about who we are. We apply what we have learned to each new encounter, discovering what works and what does not work. We learn as we go. The more we risk diving deep within, the more we grow as we surface.

To be successful, we need to focus our intention while absorbed in the work of the present. We need to recognize opportunities when they present themselves and not yield to perceived obstacles. We need to take responsibility for our thoughts and actions, rather than defer to heredity, environment, or the behavior of others. We need to be willing to step into the unknown.

When met by an obstacle that catapults us into a limiting belief, moving into gratitude can pull us out. Gratitude evokes love and eclipses fear.

Success is not merely an end result. Success occurs across a spectrum. Success is the ever evolving, ever expanding universe. And as above, so below.

Until the next time, my friends… Namaste

Tina Frisco


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88 thoughts on “What Is Success? – Guest Post by Tina Frisco…

  1. So many of us need to be reminded to define our idea of “success.” Once we do, we may discover that we’re doing just great! And if “learning” and perhaps even “failing” is noted as a path to success, then we’re doing even better. xo

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  2. Reblogged this on When Women Inspire and commented:
    Success. A huge topic that author Tina Frisco hones in on with beautiful, inspiring words in her guest post at The Story Reading Ape’s Blog. Also a shout out to Tricia Drammeh for reblogging it – I fear I might have missed reading it today otherwise! Well done to all involved ♥

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  3. Beautifully explained Tina. It’s similar to journeying to a new destination – sometimes it’s not all about the destination, but the journey experience getting there. ❤

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  4. Obstacles are opportunities. Success lies in challenging them with confidence. True happiness is not attaining the end product–whatever it may be, but the certainty that one can succeed through hope and determination.

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  5. Reblogged this on TINA FRISCO and commented:
    We tend to see success as a realized goal, often overlooking the small successes that create the links in this chain. I write further on this subject in my article on The Story Reading Ape. Thank you to Chris Graham for hosting me ♥

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  6. Your definitions of success are quite inspiring Tina… love them, each one well-worded and different, exhorting us to go on the path, however challenging it may seem! Thanks for sharing your wisdom. Stay blessed!

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  7. Wise words, Tina. I sometimes think of myself as a failure because my books don’t sell very well. Possibly because they are different from the average romance, or more likely because I’m not great shakes at marketing. However, the act of writing a book is a success in itself, much less getting up enough nerve to publish the thing. Any author who accomplishes that is a success.

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    • You nailed it, Lyn. Success is in the eye of the beholder. You are a success for having realized your dream of being a published author. You’re not alone among the myriad authors whose books haven’t sold well; there are many more of us than those who make a living at it. This is why our community of supportive authors and friends is so important. Thank you for sharing a bit of yourself 💚

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