When I Am Not Enough… Guest Post by Tina Frisco…


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Throughout our lives, we hear ourselves say:  ‘I’m not that good!’  ‘I’ll never make it.’  ‘I wish I could write that well.’  ‘If only I had said. . .’

Words are powerful. Energy follows thought. The words we speak to ourselves drive our subconscious minds. Diminishing thoughts tell the subconscious we are not enough.

The subconscious mind is self-serving. Its mission is to fulfill our every desire, and it sets in motion the means by which to do so. It takes our words at face value and strives to manifest what they represent. It assumes that what we think and say is what we hope and dream.

How often have we heard ourselves utter, ‘Did I say that’? Unless we’re channeling spirit, the mouth speaks what the subconscious mind thinks. If thought rests in the conscious mind, we are aware of it and can choose whether or not to give it a voice. If thought rests in the subconscious mind, we might find ourselves surprised by our own words.

Negative off-hand remarks might seem benign, yet they are potent energy viruses that infect the subconscious mind through repetition; repetition which, over time, becomes emphatic. The virulence of this self-denial is potentiated by the subterranean stream of thought that mirrors the spoken word and continues feeding the subconscious. The subconscious then compels us to speak what it believes to be our truth.

This might seem like a vicious cycle that can’t be broken; yet anything is possible, because nothing is set in stone. Even dense matter can be converted to energy.

The way out is the way in.

If we wish to realize our full potential, we need to become witness to ourselves. We must remain alert to and aware of all we manifest in word and deed. And we must do this without judgment.

Labels proclaim. Proclamation reinforces. Reinforcement cements. Cement imprisons.

Your mind is a powerful thing.

When you filter it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.



Image courtesy of Lucie Stastkova

In order to build who we wish to be, we first need to become the unbiased observer and witness all we say and do. Notice the patterns. Write them down. Pay attention to the frequency in time and space, i.e., how often we repeat and how much mind space we give these cemented beliefs. This process enlightens us to the being we think we are. It moves the subconscious into the realm of the conscious. Once we become aware of our self-talk, we can make change for the better. 

Since most of us are not enlightened beings, changing our negative thought patterns becomes a process that will occur over time. Being patient and allowing ourselves to make mistakes – even to backslide at times – will foster a smoother transition than judging and chastising. Two steps forward and one step back isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Taking that one step back gives us the opportunity to see how far we’ve come.

With practice and intention, we can even learn to influence who we are on a cellular level.

When we become aware of feeling we are not enough, we might try giving ourselves the gift of change. Prophets such as Buddha and Jesus were pioneers for change. They were teachers whose mission was redemption of the human spirit. Redemption is the act of making something better. These teachers – these avatars and Bodhisattvas – showed us how to release harmful beliefs. They exemplified forgiveness. Their ‘religion’ was LOVE.

When we see ourselves as wanting, it’s difficult – if not impossible – to love ourselves. So how do we learn to love ourselves? How do we learn to see ourselves as part of – as a reflection of – the magnificent whole we know as The Divine? How do we come to accept that we are enough?

Although we humans tend to complicate our lives by concealing truth under a thick layer of fear, the answer to this question is quite simple: We learn to love ourselves by moving into gratitude. We learn to make any change for the better by moving into gratitude. Feeling ‘less than’ is constricting; it tightens the diaphragm and seats us in ‘fight or flight’ mode. We therefore must expand. And the key to expansion is gratitude. Once seated in this expansive awareness, we can move anywhere.

We can move into forgiving ourselves our perceived deficiencies. We forgive ourselves our perceived deficiencies by letting go of judgment. We let go of judgment by accepting who we are in the moment. We accept who we are in the moment by feeling grateful for all we’ve been given and for our limitless potential. We begin with gratitude and we end with gratitude; and then we begin again. Gratitude moves in ever-expanding concentric circles. It is the key to enlightenment.

All matter converts to energy. Energy follows thought. Thinking of all for which we are grateful expands and heightens our consciousness. Higher consciousness is the vehicle that moves us into pure awareness. We then see our mortal bodies and self-serving minds reflected in the magnificent light beings we truly are. Once we behold our true nature, we can move into its limitless essence and manifest our full potential.

Change is a process. It occurs in stages. Accessing higher consciousness and dwelling in pure awareness comes and goes like the seasons until we reach enlightenment. We are all surfers on the wave of life, and we will crest and fall with the living of it. By practicing being witness and giving thanks, we keep discouragement at bay, get back on the surfboard, and continue riding.

If our goal is enlightenment, following a daily practice of meditation to this end will serve greatly. The way out is the way in. May we all find our way out of the illusion we know as mortal life and in to the light of our divine nature.

I wish all of us the gift of knowing we are enough, the awareness to love that gift, and the blessing of self-acceptance.

Until the next time, my friends… 


Tina Frisco

Barnes & Noble





96 thoughts on “When I Am Not Enough… Guest Post by Tina Frisco…

  1. I found this post through Debbie’s blog. Amazing and inspirational write, Tina. ‘The way out is the way in.’ This sentence is powerful. Agree wit you that negativity can weigh us down and make us doubt what we do. I certainly felt that way about my non-fiction writing a few years ago when I kept getting rejected by publications, many of which told me my writing had to be written in a certain way. It made me question why I write, and these days I just write and blog and that is enough to make me happy 🙂

    Also agree with you that change is a process. We all learn in different ways too, and learn at our own pace and on our own time. We learn best when we don’t feel forced and we want to. Change is a powerful when we embrace it with open arms 🙂

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    • Thanks so much, Mabel, and for your insightful comment. Doing what we love is the best and most fulfilling gift we can give ourselves. Kudos to you for making peace with outside rejection. You hit the nail on the head with “Change is powerful when we embrace it with open arms.” Your outlook on life is inspiring, my friend 💚

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  2. This post came at the right time for me, Tina, Chris. I’m not doing very good just now, my thoughts are all about how not good enough a writer I am and coming last in two challenges really wrapped me in that vein of thought. As I was reading this post, my subconscious said: “you’ll never do that.” I noted it like you said and for the first time this week I gave it an alternative answer. I said, “well I won’t know until I try”. It’s going to be hard but I’ve got to try. Thank you, Tina, for a wonderful post and thank you, Chris, for hosting. xxx

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    • You’re most welcome, Adele. We all fall into the trap of negative self-talk now and then. The trick is to catch and reframe it each and every time, which in turn melts the glue of the negative and reinforces the glue of the positive. I’m so pleased you did exactly that. Losing a challenge ~ or 2 or 10 or 100 ~ is no measure of your worth as a writer. Most (if not all) of our noted authors were rejected myriad times before making a name for themselves. I call it “Doing Time.” Foster faith in yourself and follow your passion with abandon. Doing the opposite is self-defeating, and you have soooo much talent. Be your own best author friend. There’s just no telling where it will lead… Thank you for sharing a fragile part of yourself, sweet friend 💚

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  3. Hi Tina!
    Hello… Chris? I just met Tina….who is lovely, and this post is a powerful reminder of growing open and inwardly.
    Tina: I have no idea what I would do without meditation. This is a wonderful, wonderful piece here.
    Chris: Nice to meet you…
    ::shakes your hand and smiles::

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