Missed Opportunities – Guest Post…

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How many times have you heard yourself say: “I wish I’d said . . .”?  Sometimes we’re simply a little slow on the draw. But sometimes we hesitate, afraid to speak what we’re thinking and feeling. Maybe we’re afraid of not being liked. Maybe we’re uncomfortable with effusive reactions. Maybe we’re afraid of confrontation. Whatever the reason, it’s usually based in fear. And that’s really too bad, because we’ve missed an opportunity to grow.

How many times have you heard yourself say: “I wish I’d told her . . .”?  If we’re reticent to pay someone a compliment — perhaps afraid they may question our motives — then we’ve robbed them and ourselves of a joyful moment. If we’re reluctant to offer someone criticism — perhaps unsure whether we’re capable of handling their reaction — then we’ve robbed them and ourselves of an opportunity to change.

And the world is in desperate need of heart-speak.

How many times have you heard yourself say: “I wish I’d done . . .”? Maybe it was something as lofty as starting your own business or as unimposing as dropping a dollar in the cup of a homeless person. But wherever it fell on the spectrum, it was a missed opportunity to act — perhaps even for the greater good.

And the world is in desperate need of heart-action.

If we’re motivated by love instead of fear, the consequence of our words and deeds can only be positive. It may not be comfortable, but it will grow our spirit and advance our soul as well as the soul of the recipient.

Now, I’m not talking about quick-witted replies, off-the-cuff remarks, or spontaneous actions. Many of us aren’t endowed with sharp wits and swift reflexes.  I’m talking about those moments that give us pause; those moments when we feel something real stir deep within; those moments when we hesitate and then choose to withdraw. I’m talking about the opportunities we ignore within our relationships and encounters that we later regret having missed.

The good news is that often we can circle back, grab that opportunity, and then manifest something real, something substantial, something that will endure.

Don’t be afraid to speak and act from your heart. You’ll know it’s your heart rather than your mind compelling you, because you’ll feel the tingle in your solar plexus. In that moment, you’ll move out of your mind, step away from your ego, and simply give of yourself.

The trick is not to be attached to the outcome. If attachment applies, the motivating force may be fear rather than love.  And attachment is a whole other subject, perhaps one for a future post.

There is nothing more gratifying, more fulfilling, more enduring than speaking and acting from the heart . . .

Until the next time, my friends ~ walk in beauty.


Tina Frisco

Tina Books



42 thoughts on “Missed Opportunities – Guest Post…

  1. Heartwarming post! Reblog button never shows on my iPad, but I will reblog from my laptop later. More and more, I hear about fear vs love, and more and more, I see how very true it is. And Tina’s post takes it a step further applying it to relationships, too. Missed opportunities indeed! I’m not afraid to say I love Tina and Chris and all the sweet and supportive followers of this blog. Of course, I’m just a cat….. :::Cheshire grin:::

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