STAGES OF CHAOS: Denial, Fear, Survival
Have you asked yourself, “Is this really happening to me?” That feeling is part of my Stages of Chaos theory. When something happens to us that is just too terrible to wrap our mind around, we deny it. We simply can’t process such a trauma. In fact, our brain is hardwired to block out trauma, but on the flip side, we carry those memories deep within and they impact our behavior.
When we realize that the situation is real and we need to either face it or bury it, we are faced with an unbridled fear; almost a choking fear that takes away every ounce of happiness. That is when things begin to dim and get quite dark.
Faced with these two emotions, survival eventually breaks through and we realize that we cannot give up. We have to keep going. No matter how hopeless we feel or tired we are, we have to fight.
I have included the episode from my YouTube Channel in this post as well. The holidays are such a difficult time for many people. Sometimes all you need to know is that someone has felt these same feelings; that you are always accompanied by others. Most of all reach out and get help if you need it. Don’t be ashamed to seek out support. The darkest hour is just before the dawn. I have lived this and know it to be true.
When I lost my job in April 2014, I felt the walls closing in. I thought my life was ending. I realized in August of this year that from the worst, most horrific situations comes the best blessings. I was taken out of a job that almost killed my spirit; one that tormented me and stole from me. It’s a job I would have never left unless forced to do so. It took a while, but I realized that I was free. When I was struggling through this situation, I came up with the Stages of Chaos to make sense of it. It was God’s way of helping me figure it all out through the only way I knew how: psychology. Perhaps my struggles can help you overcome yours.